Tuesday’s With Autism: Origami Owl

I’ve recently gone back to work full time and am still learning time management between Work Me and Home Me as evidenced by the state of my house and that steamy dream I had where maids came in and deep cleaned my home. They were wearing baggy jeans and t-shirts because the tres-la-la part was the cleaning. I mean ceiling to baseboard. So choice.

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I haven’t worked full time since 2008, and I left my part time job in 2013. My whole work gig has been based around the kids: either they could come to work with me or I worked around their school hours. I moved to part time because I was juggling a whole new world Aladdin and Jasmine failed to mention on the flying carpet. My employer “got” autism as it was an early intervention program so I had some leeway many parents don’t when it comes to work. I have been very fortunate in that sense.

Now that I’m back to work full time, it’s still about the kids, just for different reasons. The “baby” goes to Pre-K this August and was begging to go to preschool this year –  “school like brothers”.  Why would I continue to be a stay at home mom if there is no one home to stay at home with?? This gives us the chance to send him to preschool with purpose, save money, pay off debt, and the place I am working may very well be a place Aiden and his buddies utilize in the not-too-distant future.

All of that rambling is to say the work conflict is HARD whether or not it is a choice. I just started a month ago, and have been guilted about a valentines day party, a jumprope for heart event AND a field trip by Mr. Six. He’s used to Mom being at the stuff so I can’t blame him, but cmon kid, put down the shiv of shame for just a minute!

I want to start highlighting individuals or families bopping around with autism who balance that trifecta of Life, Work, and Spectrum. Some of us are working outside of the home, some from home, and some have even started their own businesses. It is a tightrope extravaganza some days and my goal here is to high five and thumbs up and positively reinforce the hardworking folks I highlight. If they are running their own business, please take a minute and check out their links. It’s like Keep it Local but for the autism tribe (I can’t think of something catchy yet, but Im all ears!)

ANGELA OWENS – ORIGAMI OWL CUSTOM JEWELRY 

Angela and her husband have three amazing kiddos. Two of her kids have autism with some co-morbid diagnoses including adhd, ocd, and spd. She’s both a stay at home and work from home mom out of necessity. This #bossmom has started working with  Origami Owl, an online custom jewelry shop that has something for everyone. Angela’s site is filled with incredible options to choose from. She also has a facebook page if you have any questions about the pieces or want to speak with her directly for a more personal shopping experience.

 

Autism Awareness month is just around the corner….I’m just sayin’……

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Angela’s driving force: this adorable trio!

I don’t want to give too much away because the site is well worth the lookie-loo, but I will say it is not just autism charms. There are all sorts of goodies: watches, earrings, bracelets, and my favorite: a locket you can wear that you add essential oils to for a daily dose of relaxation and calm or alert and groovin’ – whatever your EO jam may be!

If you’d like to be highlighted, let me know with a quick email or comment. Happy Tuesday!

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Tuesday’s With Autism: Think BIG Picture

MONDAY 11:55pm I’m officially five minutes ahead of schedule, folks. I have a sleeping four-year-old on my elbow, a snoring teenager making my eye twitch, but I’m ahead of schedule and I’m gloating, here and now **confetti throw**

In fact, this is the first time I have been ahead of schedule for the last few months. I recently took a new job as a Program Manager at a non-profit activity center for adults with additional needs. Last week, I would just stare at my phone in disbelief and set it down, like I was a time traveler from 1985 – I just couldn’t deal with the loud rectangle. It’s a slow process, but I’m getting into a groove.

I don’t want to play my hand too fast, but I LOVE my job. I have not only gained friends, but I have gained perspective, dance moves, checker skills, and personal, long-term mama goals. I hang out with an amazing group of adults – and it’s such a cliche – but while yes, I teach them, they also teach me.

Speaking of adults, let’s talk big picture plans – do you have a plan or are you an ostrich with your head in the sand? If you are an ostrich, it’s okay to admit it here and now, but you should game plan to morph into, say, a rhino, pretty quickly.  Are you charging towards your kiddo’s future? If not, why? Are you planning work skills? Money management? Independent living skills?

Listen, even if you are at the beginning of your journey and this feels IMPOSSIBLE, you need to PLAN to make your “impossible”, possible. It is easy to get caught in the cutesy-putesy childhood section of a diagnosis, but I’m gonna shock you with a little known (see: ostrich) fact – Childhood is 18-21yrs long. Adulthood is much, MUCH longer. In an “ideal” scenario, it continues long after you are alive.

Breathe folks, I am telling you this as a parent of a 14 year old that has been diagnosed for 10 years. I could not comprehend what I am personally saying even five years ago, it’s okay if you are not here yet…..just know you need to get here.

If you have started thinking of the post 18-21yr continuum, what skills are you working on? What are you including on your child’s IEP? What social skills and goals are you working on? Please sound off below or share on the FACEBOOK page – we learn from one another – let’s collaborate!

 

 

 

Tuesdays’s With Autism: Following the Leader

I’m back!

It’s been a whirlwind few weeks, and the winds are still whirling, but I wanted to be sure I caught this Tuesday to get back in the groove of things.

Between holidays, a new semester, my advocacy class, and Aiden’s birthday creeping up, I have been thinking a lot about his journey and how we have shaped him for adulthood. I wrote this piece for another venue, but I’ve decided to share it here. Happy New year!

When children show a knack or interest in a particular activity, parents tend to go above and beyond to help them thrive. If a child takes a liking to a soccer ball they get on Christmas, they are enrolled and on a team by spring. Say they have a penchant for drawing. Art classes abound! So why do we, as parents, hesitate to embrace the other things our kids with autism love: vacuums, desk lamps, and tape, oh my!

Your child’s passion is their strength. Use this as a map to help create meaningful short and long term goals. When we threw my son a birthday party at his favorite laundromat, we were sure our typical friends would shut us down. On the contrary, I have never seen such an inclusive community snapshot than being in the midst of washing machines and friends of all abilities. Laundry-related words have helped us kick start speech, challenging behavior, and sets our sights on a long-term goal my son has had for years: Washing Machine Fixing Guy. Recently, I was at our Capitol talking with a Senator who met with my son’s class earlier in the year to celebrate Autism Awareness Day. She told him she had a friend with an appliance repair shop and that he may be able to shadow a few days for some on-the-job training. We took his “silly obsession” as a toddler and have embraced it to the point that at nearly 14, he has an opportunity I would have never thought possible 10 years ago at diagnosis.


If your child uses a reward board or a token system, try using pictures of vacuums as you make your way to the desired reward. If you have an anxious child who enjoys the soothing glow of a desk lamp, write in a desk lamp for their desk during your next IEP meeting. A tape loving teen would be a valuable aide to the teacher always hanging up new things in their class. Heck, a LOT of clubs hang things up and down their school’s hallways! Find a club leader and explain the passion. Sure, some people will say no because let’s face it, we don’t live in an inclusive utopia. But Parents…some of them WI
LL say YES. That’s how you create change.

Every child deserves to be a thriving member of their community. One of the greatest barriers to an inclusivity is awareness. As parents, we want the world to embrace our child, but we need to remember that includes all of our child’s gifts, even the “quirky” ones. Start small and think big: you never know where you and your child’s puzzle-pieced road will go next.

Tuesday’s With Autism – Winter Break

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It’s arrived, the time of year that I have a love-hate relationship with: Winter Break.

Me: No schedules! No routine! More free time!
Also me: No schedules….no routine…Oh god, more free time.

There are only so many Christmas crafts one can make and only so many sugar-filled treats one can consume. (That’s a lie, the boys could consume their weight in sugar, but I like for them to have teeth and properly working GI tracts). The weather has been unseasonably sunny right up until the schools locked their doors. Now, it’s like an angsty 90s video grey around the clock.

Still, I want to take advantage of our break and enjoy the extra time with the little monsters. Between breaking up fights, breaking down plans, and doing my best impression of a broken record, I’m also getting in some quality cuddles and adventures.

There will be a blog break through the end of the year to focus my time on the fam, and to roll out some new snazziness, but Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram will still be active (mostly FB). Stay connected and I will be write back in 2018!

 

#TuesdaysWithAutism – Big News From This Big Mouth!

This is another quick one, but that’s because #TuesdaysWithAutism was posted directly to the Facebook page, today.

Why you ask?

Because I had BIG NEWS! Wanna see?

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PS: My life will slow down after Christmas and awesome content will return. Until then, it’s going to be a little ragtag around these parts. Apologies!

Family: Holidays Vs. Special Needs Families

It’s the first #FridayFWords, and it synced up PERFECTLY with a piece I wrote for Oklahoma City Mom’s Blog that was posted this morning.

Now listen, let’s be honest with each other:

I have to post a little teaser and then lead you to the article via a link. Why? Because I’m contractually obligated to, that’s why! I have to trust you will follow the link to read more and man, it’s hard to get people to do that many times in bloggy world. So here I say, TRUST ME. It’s funny, it’s true, and most of all, you can pass it on to your family before that big get together that’s coming up. Here we go:

Dear Grandparents, Aunts & Uncles, and The Guy Your Cousin Always Has Hanging Around But You’re Not Sure What the Deal Is:

Hi.

It’s me. Your family member with a child that has additional needs. I thought we could have a heart to heart before we drown ourselves in Christmas Cheer and ham.

Every year during the holiday season, I watch two versions of social media unfold within my special needs community. There are the public family pictures with smiles and endearing anecdotes, and then there are the behind the scenes messages in our private groups. Whatever the story and scenario, it ends with mom after mom feeling hurt and isolated by the very people who are supposed to be loving and supporting her unconditionally:  The Family.

Follow the link for the rest of the article. It includes a pretty funny picture caption. What are you waiting for?! HAPPY FRIDAY!

 

Tuesday’s With Autism: A Night to Shine Event

I have to post and run tonight, but I wanted to share this event with you guys as it is nationwide within the US.

Tim Tebow’s Night to Shine is a prom night event for people with special needs who are 14 and over. While the Tim Tebow Foundation has a Christian leaning and I am pretty much bunking in Camp Secular, I think this is a pretty cool event.

The event takes place for 2018 on February 9th at various locations across the country. If you check the link, you can find a location near you.

PS: volunteers are needed!

DISCLAIMER: I have no stake in this program. My son has never been and I do not know a single person that has. Because this is a nationwide event, I just want to spread the word in case you or yours are looking to get their dance on.